KINDNESS

Kindness

Showing kindness is different from different people and different culture, but they both show the same feelings of love and care for each other. Being kind comes from our hearts. Some are taught, from tradition, we inherit some from our parents and ancestors, and some behavior of kindness comes from our environment. Kind parents produced kind children.

Growing up in the Philippines, I experienced a lot kindness and appreciation from everyone. As a child our grandparents brought us good food when they visited us. Our neighbors, shared their dinner with us and my mom, did the same thing. (This type of kindness is Sharing). My husband’s was assigned at Warner Robbins Air Force Base in 1973. When he went TDY (Temporary Duty) he was gone for a while, our neighbor took me to Dairy Queen, first time I had banana split, it just came out that time. That was delicious. My neighbor made sure I was taking care of while my husband was gone.( This type of kindness is kind gestures.) I felt so especial because I met a Vietnamese friend and her neighbors gave her a bad time. My neighbor accepted me and cared for me. (This kind of kindness is acceptance. ) You see, kindness really makes the difference. Making somebody’s life easier or better is a form of kindness. Remembering their birthdays and being sensitive to their needs and feelings is a form of kindness. (This type of kindness is thoughtful kindness.) Sometimes our friends and family do not understand why we love someone and put up with him/her. The reason is that we understand what they are going through and what their situation is. We can feel their hurts and empathize with them. We share the same sadness and we understand how they feel, (This is empathy kindness.) When I go to the gym, library, dog park or any where, I am excited to see everybody I know. (This type of kindness is loving Kindness.) Giving somebody something without expecting anything in return is generous kindness. The possibilities of kindness are entirely up to you.

Kindness is contagious. When somebody did something nice for you, you always want to return the favor back. Being selfless, being careful of what we said that will not offend our friends and family will improve our relationship. Avoiding drama from little stuff is a form of kindness. Nobody is perfect. We can let some of the little things go. The love, 💔 the sincerity, is a reflection of a kind person. Don’t you just want to be a genie and hit your partner with a wand so he/she can be kind to you? There is another way, pray for him/her. It is more effective.

Most of the kindness is learned from a culture. Children learn more from watching adults, especially their parents. If we show kindness with hidden agenda, children will be confused. Their subconscious will pick it up. They will not be a kind person because they don’t feel the love and the sincere act of kindness. Do what I say doesn’t help. Being a good example is far more effective teaching children to be kind.

Proverbs 11:17
"Those  who are kind benefit themselves, but the cruel bring ruin on themselves."  (NIV)

How about you? What does kindness mean to you? Write down a comment below. Thanks for reading. God bless you